This Seems Backwards, but it's the Key to Healing

Are you accidentally pressuring yourself to do a good job healing and then feeling bad about yourself? Maybe you have a stress-induced illness, anxiety, TMS/MBS, or a chronic illness and you know that you can help your flares with certain healing practices.

And yet, you don’t do these practices all the time.

Then, you get a little (or a lot) hard on yourself about it.

When you do experience flares, you get even harder on yourself for not keeping up your healing practices and doing all the things you need to do to stay or become well.

I know this trap well!

It’s a complete catch-22, because in order to feel better, you need to take pressure OFF of yourself, and yet you’re pressuring yourself about doing a better job with your healing practices, which ADDS pressure.

The way out of this trap is to take a look at the motivation for doing your healing work perfectly. First of all, it only makes sense that you want to feel better, and you want to feel better quickly.

So, your mind has translated that into doing your healing work perfectly.

The more perfection you acquire, the faster you’ll heal, says your brain.

Oops!

Except, this equation doesn’t really work. No matter how much your brain says this will work, working harder doesn’t, well…work. LOL!

When it comes to healing through mind-body practices such as meditation, yoga, journaling, de-stressing, and tuning into your inner wisdom, working harder only puts you right back into self-pressure mode.

Self-pressure mode makes you stressed out.

Then you feel worse.

The only true way to get out of this loop is to actually take the pressure off and NOT try to do anything perfectly. Don’t try to do your work perfectly. Don’t try to do your parenting perfectly. Don’t try to do your healing perfectly.

Don’t even try to do a good job!

WHAT? Is this sacrilege?

No.

This is healing.

Instead, try to do everything half-assedly. (Is that a word? Now it is!)

Do a short, 2-minute “terrible” meditation where your mind wanders all over the place.

Do one yoga pose and then take a nap.

Write in your journal for one minute and just write “f*ck” over and over.

Be a freaking rebel.

It sounds absolutely wrong, but it is exactly the path you need to take to get out of anxiety, stress-induced illness, or TMS. And it will definitely calm down chronic illness flares, too.

When I first figured out that I had severe pelvic pain entirely due to my stress levels, I embarked on a self-healing program. I read EVERY single mind-body healing book I could find and hired as many practitioners as I could afford.

Then I tried to do every single practice every resource suggested to do, every single day. This was basically a full-time job.

I didn’t get better.

I was doing long breathwork sessions, meditations, journaling, digging into old traumas, doing restorative yoga, and more. Inside, I was panicking.

It was only when I stumbled across a random tidbit of information from a TMS pain-relief doctor, Dr. Schechter, that the lightbulb went off. He said to keep your healing practices to less that 45 minutes a day so as to not turn it into more pressure.

Aha!

I felt so liberated when I read that sentence.

The next day, I spent maybe five minutes doing a little journaling. That was it.

The rest of the time, I did other things that sounded fun, relaxing, or lovely.

I had struggled with chronic pain for over seven years at this point. In four weeks, it was gone.

This inspired me to create a super simple practice I could do every day that wouldn’t take very long, would be flexible enough to accommodate any schedule, and would include everything necessary to heal. I wanted to stay well.

This practice, which I call the KIND Process, is something I still use, to this day, as my stay-well or healing practice, depending on what I need. It involves becoming somatically aware of my body, feeling emotions, checking the mind-stories that might be taking me off track into self-pressure, and listening to inner wisdom.

I half-ass this process all the time! I can spend thirty minutes on it, if I want. Or, I can just spend two minutes.

The more you can half-ass things, the more you’ll find that you’re actually getting the results you thought you’d get from extreme focus and pressure.

Here’s the trick: If you notice yourself feeling crappy about something, totally overwhelmed, and just stuck - half ass it for today.

Then, if there’s a moment some other time where you feel inspired and excited and want to give your all, DO IT.

This will help you heal, accomplish major work projects, parent healthily, and so, so, so much more.

Join me in the slacker club. 😂

This is where magic happens.

Learning how to half-ass everything and get great results is a big part of my Mind-Body Magic Life Coach Training Program! You’ll get my complete Slacker Magic System to help you do this so you can get great results by doing less and actually accomplish more - all while your body feels better and less stressed.

You’ll also learn how to give your nervous system more bandwidth so that stress doesn’t hit you as hard, your body doesn’t collapse or show up with more symptoms when you’re stressed, and your anxiety levels drop. You’ll learn how to help clients with all of this, too!

You’ll also get access to my Heart Centered Coach Accelerator Program, which allows you to manifest clients and income for your business without running your body into the ground. Forget the hustle and embraced the slacking, or half-assed business building that actually accomplishes far more than you can get done when you’re pressuring yourself to achieve.

You can learn more about this program and others here.